"We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recogizing and appreciating what we do have." Frederick Keonig
Several years ago I had a friend who complained of her unhappiness. She told me that once married she was sure she’d be happy. She got married, convinced her happiness had arrived. But soon she found she wasn’t happy after all. She then believed that once she had a baby she would be happy. She had three babies and still did not find her happiness.
Nothing or no one can create your happiness. That we must do for ourselves. Those who search outside themselves for happiness are sure to be disappointed, just as believing happiness will only come when our lives are perfect. For happiness to develop it means we’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections in our lives and embrace what we have. Happiness is not the absence of problems but the ability to deal with them.
If only my friend of years ago had recognized what she had; a loving husband, three healthy children and a life filled with possibilities. Instead she was waiting for someone to unlock her happiness when all along she possessed the key.